It's Christmas time again, the weather is cold though there's no snow here in Shenzhen, China. It's quite different when you are in your own country. You will really feel the true spirit of Christmas. Here you can see establishments putting some christmas tree, having santa clause, and decorating the whole place with christmas lights but it is still different , totally different. Its simply because most of the people here doesn't know the true meaning of Christmas. Except for the foreigners who lives here and who do the traditional celebration of the Christmas.
I miss everything, about how we celebrate Christmas together with my family. Gathering together and wait till the midnight comes. I miss my family and this is the second Christmas that i will be spending here in China, away from them. My Christmas won't be the same without all of you but you will always be in my heart..(char lang oi..emotera..)hahahahaha
Wednesday, 17 December 2008
Friday, 12 December 2008
lucky week..
For the past few weeks i've been very busy with my classes especially because i had so many open classes with the parents at school. It was pretty tiring when you had to do all the preparations. From the teaching materials down to the small details. We even had to do some rehearsals for the kids just to make sure to meet the parents expectations,though the students have the knowledge but in terms of having a classes in front of their parents its a different story.. We always do this open class every end of the semester,worst thing is doing it every month..hmmmpp..well thank God i don't have to do it every end of the month..hehehe..unlike before..
Teaching here in China is very different compared in the philippines..
Well,why am i lucky this week...hmmm..you might be thinking that i won in a game or somebody gave me money..more than that...i was lucky this week coz i had so much time to rest..one thing that i really did not have for the past few weeks because i was so occupied with works. This week i had only short time hour of classes..Leaved early in school,i don't even need to prepare teaching materials for my classes coz i was just given a short period of time to have the classes, had dinner with friends outside, did some general cleaning with my place which i haven't done since last month...i did cleaned my place but not totally like going every detail of it..These are just some of the things that i really haven't done lately due to busy working days..And weekends, less teaching hours coz my other students are busy too..So i am thinking of something that i want to do for a very long time which is i want to go to the books store and buy some books that i might be able to use in teaching and hang out with friends, have some coffee in starbucks or grab some ice cream..hehehe..though its cold here right now coz its winter..
It's a lil strange for me not to be busy..i mean i'm used to be occupied..but its nice to have some time for my self too..That's what i have been doing for the past few days..i'll just update you next time..have a great day! Advance merry xmas..
Teaching here in China is very different compared in the philippines..
Well,why am i lucky this week...hmmm..you might be thinking that i won in a game or somebody gave me money..more than that...i was lucky this week coz i had so much time to rest..one thing that i really did not have for the past few weeks because i was so occupied with works. This week i had only short time hour of classes..Leaved early in school,i don't even need to prepare teaching materials for my classes coz i was just given a short period of time to have the classes, had dinner with friends outside, did some general cleaning with my place which i haven't done since last month...i did cleaned my place but not totally like going every detail of it..These are just some of the things that i really haven't done lately due to busy working days..And weekends, less teaching hours coz my other students are busy too..So i am thinking of something that i want to do for a very long time which is i want to go to the books store and buy some books that i might be able to use in teaching and hang out with friends, have some coffee in starbucks or grab some ice cream..hehehe..though its cold here right now coz its winter..
It's a lil strange for me not to be busy..i mean i'm used to be occupied..but its nice to have some time for my self too..That's what i have been doing for the past few days..i'll just update you next time..have a great day! Advance merry xmas..
Friday, 21 November 2008
Amazing Pilots!
Amazing skill and AMAZING courage for even attempting those landings!
Wake Island, Pacific Ocean
At the macau Macao International Airport
Kuujjuaraapik , Quebec !
A rock, off the coast of Greenwood (Canadian Military Labrador Helicopter)
Outstanding job by a great young pilot from Pennsylvania ! Can't add anything else to this... the picture is worth 10,000 words!
If you don't think our military pilots earn their pay, you need to take a look at this picture.This photo was taken by a soldier in Afghanistan of a helo rescue mission. The pilot is a PA National Guard guy who flies EMS choppers in civilian life. Now how many people on the planet you reckon could set the back end of a chopper down on the roof top of a shack, on a steep mountain cliff, and hold it there while soldiers load wounded men in the rear. If this does not impress you... nothing ever will.
Wake Island, Pacific Ocean
At the macau Macao International Airport
Kuujjuaraapik , Quebec !
A rock, off the coast of Greenwood (Canadian Military Labrador Helicopter)
Outstanding job by a great young pilot from Pennsylvania ! Can't add anything else to this... the picture is worth 10,000 words!
If you don't think our military pilots earn their pay, you need to take a look at this picture.This photo was taken by a soldier in Afghanistan of a helo rescue mission. The pilot is a PA National Guard guy who flies EMS choppers in civilian life. Now how many people on the planet you reckon could set the back end of a chopper down on the roof top of a shack, on a steep mountain cliff, and hold it there while soldiers load wounded men in the rear. If this does not impress you... nothing ever will.
Thursday, 20 November 2008
Guangzhou, China
Another place where we visited together with my 2 good friends here in China..Welcome to guangzhou..about 2 hours by train from Shenzhen..A very prosperous place here in south part of China..
ANOVISSE..(A for ANDRO;NOV for NOVA; and ISSE for Charisse) These are my 2 good friends. We've been together for quite a long time now..They are so fun to be with. A very funny people.I love traveling with these couple.
At the ground floor where there are cafes and restaurants.After having lunch and we're about to look around some of the nice places in guanzhou.Just within the City.
NOVISSE..in the Middle of a park in the city proper in Guanzhou..Its almost winter.This was taken last 2007 November.
ANOVISSE..(A for ANDRO;NOV for NOVA; and ISSE for Charisse) These are my 2 good friends. We've been together for quite a long time now..They are so fun to be with. A very funny people.I love traveling with these couple.
At the ground floor where there are cafes and restaurants.After having lunch and we're about to look around some of the nice places in guanzhou.Just within the City.
NOVISSE..in the Middle of a park in the city proper in Guanzhou..Its almost winter.This was taken last 2007 November.
At the VENETTIAN HOTEL
If you love pleasure and of course if you've got the money..try to visit this beautiful hotel in Macau..actually there are a lot of beautiful Casinos and hotels in Macau but this is one of the most beautiful hotels in Macau aside from the MGM grand hotel..Just touring around with ate marissa..
At the VENETTIAN Hotel in Macau with my friend ate Marissa. The hotel is really beautiful and very expensive. You will be amazed with its design. The place where Celine Dion held her concert in Macau last April.
Going up..Just finished lookin at the casinos..a lot of people playing there.spendin lots of money. Taking pictures within the casino is not allowed so dito na lang.hehehe..Nice place..
At the VENETTIAN Hotel in Macau with my friend ate Marissa. The hotel is really beautiful and very expensive. You will be amazed with its design. The place where Celine Dion held her concert in Macau last April.
Going up..Just finished lookin at the casinos..a lot of people playing there.spendin lots of money. Taking pictures within the casino is not allowed so dito na lang.hehehe..Nice place..
Fishermans Wharf in Macau
Waiting for my coffee to be served..So picture picture muna..hehehe.. :-)
There are nice places inside the Fishermasn wharf though it so tired to keep on walking around there but i had fun..
Standin'in front of a jewelry shop inside the fishermans wharf.la lang window shopping lang..hehehe..
A love story
Here's an italian song that was shared to me by my good friend since in elementary...It has a nice melody and a wonderful lyrics that would really touch your heart..
La Solitudine
by: Lara Pausini
Marco sé n'è andato e non ritorna più
Il treno delle sette trenta senza lui
È un cuore di metallo senza l'anima
Nel freddo del mattino grigio di città
A scuola il banco è vuoto.
Marco è dentro me.
È dolce il suo respiro fra i pensieri miei
.Distanze enormi sembrano dividerci
Ma il cuore batte forte dentro me
Chissà se tu mi penserai
Se con i tuoi non parli mai
Se ti nascondi come me.
Sfuggi gli sguardi e te ne stai…
Rinchiuso in camera e non vuoiMangiare.
Stringi forte a teIl cuscino e piangi e non lo sai
Quanto altro male ti farà la solitudine
Marco nel mio diario ho una fotografia.
Hai gli occhi di bambino un poco timido.
La stringo forte al cuore e sento che ci sei
Fra i compiti d'inglese e matematica
Tuo padre e i suoi consigli che monotonia.
Lui con il suo lavoro ti ha portato via.
Di certo il tuo parere non l'ha chiesto mai.
Ha detto “Un giorno tu mi capirai”
Chissà se tu mi penserai
Se con gli amici parlerai
Per non soffrire più per me
Ma non è facile lo sai
A scuola non ne posso più
E i pomeriggi senza te
Studiare è inutile.
Tutte le idee
Si affollano su te
Non è possibile dividere
La vita di noi due
Ti prego aspettami amore mio
Ma illuderti non so!
La solitudine fra noi
Questo silenzio dentro me
È l'inquietudine di vivere
La vita senza te
Ti prego aspettami perché
Non posso stare senza te.
Non è possibile dividere
La storia di noi due} x 2La solitudine
The Loneliness
Marco has gone from here and is not coming back anymore
The seven thirty train without him
Is a heart of metal with no soul
In the cold of the grey morning of the city
At school the bench is empty. Marco is inside me.
His breath is sweet in my thoughts.
Enormous distances seem to divide us
But my heart beats strongly inside me
Who knows if you will think of me
If you never speak with your parents
If you hide yourself like me.
You run from the looks and stay…
Confined to your room and do not want
To eat. You hold your pillow
Firmly against you and cry and do not know
How much more harm the loneliness will do to you
Marco, in my diary I have a photograph.
You have the eyes of slightly timid child.
I hold it firmly against my heart and I feel that you are here
Between the assignments of English and mathematics
Your father and his suggestions, what monotony.
He with his job has taken you away.
For certain your opinion has never been asked for.
He has said “One day you will understand me”
Who knows if you will think of meIf you will talk with friends
Through not suffering for me anymore
But it is not easy, you know
At school I am no longer capable
And in the afternoons without you
To study is useless. All the ideas
Crowd in on you
It is not possible to divide
The lives of us two
I beg you to wait for me my love
But to delude yourself, I do not know!
{The loneliness between us
This silence inside me
Is the anxiety from living
Life without you
I beg you to wait for me because
I cannot be without you.
It is not possible to divide
The story of us two} x 2The loneliness
La Solitudine
by: Lara Pausini
Marco sé n'è andato e non ritorna più
Il treno delle sette trenta senza lui
È un cuore di metallo senza l'anima
Nel freddo del mattino grigio di città
A scuola il banco è vuoto.
Marco è dentro me.
È dolce il suo respiro fra i pensieri miei
.Distanze enormi sembrano dividerci
Ma il cuore batte forte dentro me
Chissà se tu mi penserai
Se con i tuoi non parli mai
Se ti nascondi come me.
Sfuggi gli sguardi e te ne stai…
Rinchiuso in camera e non vuoiMangiare.
Stringi forte a teIl cuscino e piangi e non lo sai
Quanto altro male ti farà la solitudine
Marco nel mio diario ho una fotografia.
Hai gli occhi di bambino un poco timido.
La stringo forte al cuore e sento che ci sei
Fra i compiti d'inglese e matematica
Tuo padre e i suoi consigli che monotonia.
Lui con il suo lavoro ti ha portato via.
Di certo il tuo parere non l'ha chiesto mai.
Ha detto “Un giorno tu mi capirai”
Chissà se tu mi penserai
Se con gli amici parlerai
Per non soffrire più per me
Ma non è facile lo sai
A scuola non ne posso più
E i pomeriggi senza te
Studiare è inutile.
Tutte le idee
Si affollano su te
Non è possibile dividere
La vita di noi due
Ti prego aspettami amore mio
Ma illuderti non so!
La solitudine fra noi
Questo silenzio dentro me
È l'inquietudine di vivere
La vita senza te
Ti prego aspettami perché
Non posso stare senza te.
Non è possibile dividere
La storia di noi due} x 2La solitudine
The Loneliness
Marco has gone from here and is not coming back anymore
The seven thirty train without him
Is a heart of metal with no soul
In the cold of the grey morning of the city
At school the bench is empty. Marco is inside me.
His breath is sweet in my thoughts.
Enormous distances seem to divide us
But my heart beats strongly inside me
Who knows if you will think of me
If you never speak with your parents
If you hide yourself like me.
You run from the looks and stay…
Confined to your room and do not want
To eat. You hold your pillow
Firmly against you and cry and do not know
How much more harm the loneliness will do to you
Marco, in my diary I have a photograph.
You have the eyes of slightly timid child.
I hold it firmly against my heart and I feel that you are here
Between the assignments of English and mathematics
Your father and his suggestions, what monotony.
He with his job has taken you away.
For certain your opinion has never been asked for.
He has said “One day you will understand me”
Who knows if you will think of meIf you will talk with friends
Through not suffering for me anymore
But it is not easy, you know
At school I am no longer capable
And in the afternoons without you
To study is useless. All the ideas
Crowd in on you
It is not possible to divide
The lives of us two
I beg you to wait for me my love
But to delude yourself, I do not know!
{The loneliness between us
This silence inside me
Is the anxiety from living
Life without you
I beg you to wait for me because
I cannot be without you.
It is not possible to divide
The story of us two} x 2The loneliness
Monday, 3 November 2008
Past and the Present
Just wanna share to u my look when i was still in first year college...this was me way back then..it was taken at Lito Sy Studio together with my friends but i had my solo pics like my other friends had their own solo pics too...
好不好看？
美丽吗？
And this is me after 7 years..It was taken last June 26, 2008. The first time i went back home from Shenzhen, China. Nothin' really change just a lil of my look..but the rest are still the same..
Check this out...Hmmmm..LOL
NAKU WAG KANG PAPANAKAW!!!...
MAHIRAP NA!!!
LUPIT NITO NYAY!!!!...
NAKU DELIKADO TO..... BKA MAGALIT..!!!! ANU PA MASABI..
NAKU PO KAKALUNGKOT NAMAN... T_T
BAWAL MAGSAYA...
HAAY UU NGA NAMAN.. LIBRE NA NGA EH.. DPAT LANG..
NAKU KAW NAMAN KASI EH... PAG MAGPAPADULAS KA INGAT INGAT LANG..
HALA NAKU LOLA LOLA BUNTIS KA BA???
HALA .. HORNY KA BA DYAN .. E2 GAMOT SAU....
WAAAAAAAA.... WAG PO !! WAG PO MASAKIT!!!
HAY.. WELCOME NGA...
HELLO HELLO MUSTA KA NA, HOW DO YOU DO??
WAG KANG MAGULO... NANGAANO KA KASI EH...!!!
KUNG GUSTO MONG MASAKTAN SIGE LANG!!!
NAKU PO INGAT INGAT!!!
Sunday, 2 November 2008
Confusing feelings...
Love is one of the most wonderful thing that everybody wants to feel and to experience. Looking for the right one or waiting for the right one that's what most other people do, for they believe that LOVE has its own time..But not the same when you are TORN BETWEEN TWO LOVERS..Its a different story and its really crazy..Sooooo confusing..according to some people..
There's a point in our life that we wanted to be in a relationship 'coz we think that we are ready to take one but nothing really seems to be there to fill those empty space in our heart and our hearts have not found the person whom could make our heart beat. Their are point in our life too that there are two persons who happens to be there at the same time..
Each realationships has its own different situation to consider. So many kinds of stories about persons who is in this kind of confusing feelings.
What if you fell in love with someone whom you haven't met in person but you have the communications and both of you have this long distance relationship and you have committed with each other have made further plans to continue the relationships that you have started and the other came along and you were honest to this person that you are in a relationship but this new person was too confident about himself / herself that he don't need to worry about the other one coz they haven't meet in person yet and you feel something for him too??could it happen???
What about you??Have you ever been in this kind of situation?? How will you handle it??
There's a point in our life that we wanted to be in a relationship 'coz we think that we are ready to take one but nothing really seems to be there to fill those empty space in our heart and our hearts have not found the person whom could make our heart beat. Their are point in our life too that there are two persons who happens to be there at the same time..
Each realationships has its own different situation to consider. So many kinds of stories about persons who is in this kind of confusing feelings.
- What if you accidentally fall in love with the two men/women in your life and you can't choose either the two of them because they are both special in your heart? Is it better to leave them both and sacrifice?
- What if you love one so much and the other one just seems to fit in so perfectly and compliments you in every aspect? what do you do?
Different situations of different people..
What if the one you love is not there and there's this another person who happens to be there but whenever you're with this person what you see and think is the one you love but who is not there at that moment with you because you are separated by thousand miles of distance..What if you fell in love with someone whom you haven't met in person but you have the communications and both of you have this long distance relationship and you have committed with each other have made further plans to continue the relationships that you have started and the other came along and you were honest to this person that you are in a relationship but this new person was too confident about himself / herself that he don't need to worry about the other one coz they haven't meet in person yet and you feel something for him too??could it happen???
What about you??Have you ever been in this kind of situation?? How will you handle it??
Friday, 31 October 2008
melamine outbreak...
Each of us should be more careful about the food that we are taking not only the milk..recently melamine are found in infants powdered milk here in china and even eggs..
18 September 2008 -- Over 6240 cases of kidney stones in infants with three deaths have been reported from across China as of 17 September. Kidney stones in infants are very rare. The Ministry of Health of China has confirmed that these cases are related to melamine-contaminated powdered infant formula consumed by the infants. While the exact onset date of illness resulting from contamination is unknown, a manufacturer received a complaint of illness in March 2008.
And the latest...Eggs that are produced from Dalian,china are contaminated with melamine too..
The World Health Organization (WHO) is in close communication with the Ministry of Health of China to monitor the situation. WHO has also been disseminating information on the situation to WHO Member States through the International Food Safety Authorities Network (INFOSAN). INFOSAN has also specifically alerted the five countries importing potentially contaminated products from China.
WHO recommends breastfeeding as the ideal way of providing young infants with the nutrients they need for healthy growth and development. Exclusive breastfeeding is recommended up to six months of age.
A recall is also ongoing for all contaminated products in China..
18 September 2008 -- Over 6240 cases of kidney stones in infants with three deaths have been reported from across China as of 17 September. Kidney stones in infants are very rare. The Ministry of Health of China has confirmed that these cases are related to melamine-contaminated powdered infant formula consumed by the infants. While the exact onset date of illness resulting from contamination is unknown, a manufacturer received a complaint of illness in March 2008.
And the latest...Eggs that are produced from Dalian,china are contaminated with melamine too..
The World Health Organization (WHO) is in close communication with the Ministry of Health of China to monitor the situation. WHO has also been disseminating information on the situation to WHO Member States through the International Food Safety Authorities Network (INFOSAN). INFOSAN has also specifically alerted the five countries importing potentially contaminated products from China.
WHO recommends breastfeeding as the ideal way of providing young infants with the nutrients they need for healthy growth and development. Exclusive breastfeeding is recommended up to six months of age.
A recall is also ongoing for all contaminated products in China..
Thursday, 30 October 2008
The BENEFITS of SEX
Reading this is entertaining !!! Did you know that we can determine if a person is sexually active or not by looking at her skin ?
1. Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests have shown that a woman who has sexual relations produces big amounts of estrogen which makes hair shiny and soft.
2. To make love in soft and relaxed way reduces the possibilities of suffering from dermatitis and acne. The sweat produced cleans pores and makes the skin shine.
3. To make love allows to burn all the calories accumulate is this romantic love scene.
4. Sex is one of the safest sports. It strengthens and tonifies all body muscles. It is more enjoyabel than doing 20 lapses in the pool. And you don't need special shoes !
5. Sex is an instantaneous cure against depression. It frees endorphines in the blood flow, creating a state of euphoria and leaves us with a feeling of well-being.
6. The more we make love, the more we have the capacity to do more. A body sexually active releases a higher amount of pheromone. This subtle aroma excites the opposite sex !
7. Sex is the safest tranquiliser in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE EFFICIENT THAN VALIUM.
8. To kiss everyday allows to avoid the dentist. Kisses aid saliva in cleaning teeths and lower the quantity of acids causing enamel weakening.
9. Sex relieves headaches. Each time we make love, it releases the tension in brain veins.
10. To make love a lot can heal a nasal congestion. Sex is a natural antihistaminic. It helps fight asthma and spring allergies.
This was shared to me and just wanna share it to everybody too...More informations for everybody....it doesn't mean that you can get a lot of benefits from having sex you will be doing it as long as you want...BE RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH...
1. Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests have shown that a woman who has sexual relations produces big amounts of estrogen which makes hair shiny and soft.
2. To make love in soft and relaxed way reduces the possibilities of suffering from dermatitis and acne. The sweat produced cleans pores and makes the skin shine.
3. To make love allows to burn all the calories accumulate is this romantic love scene.
4. Sex is one of the safest sports. It strengthens and tonifies all body muscles. It is more enjoyabel than doing 20 lapses in the pool. And you don't need special shoes !
5. Sex is an instantaneous cure against depression. It frees endorphines in the blood flow, creating a state of euphoria and leaves us with a feeling of well-being.
6. The more we make love, the more we have the capacity to do more. A body sexually active releases a higher amount of pheromone. This subtle aroma excites the opposite sex !
7. Sex is the safest tranquiliser in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE EFFICIENT THAN VALIUM.
8. To kiss everyday allows to avoid the dentist. Kisses aid saliva in cleaning teeths and lower the quantity of acids causing enamel weakening.
9. Sex relieves headaches. Each time we make love, it releases the tension in brain veins.
10. To make love a lot can heal a nasal congestion. Sex is a natural antihistaminic. It helps fight asthma and spring allergies.
This was shared to me and just wanna share it to everybody too...More informations for everybody....it doesn't mean that you can get a lot of benefits from having sex you will be doing it as long as you want...BE RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH...
Wednesday, 29 October 2008
the essence of valued relationship..
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation. A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is." Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
NO POINTING FINGERS A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television." There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
NO OVERPOWERING Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
RIGHT SPEECH There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you." Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
PERSONAL PERCEPTION Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
BE PATIENT This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
NO POINTING FINGERS A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too. 
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television." There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
NO OVERPOWERING Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.. 
RIGHT SPEECH There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you." Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.PERSONAL PERCEPTION Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
BE PATIENT This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
sex love infatuation how will you know?
A good marriage will likely need to have every one of these five types of LOVE--and have them in healthy helpings.
1. Strong Sex interest. Hornell Hart used to tell his classes at Duke that 3 things had to be true for human race to survive. We had to (a) get our breakfast, (b) avoid being someone else's breakfast, and (c) have at least a passing interest in sex.
Well,for most of us,interest in sex is a trifle more than passing. Couples normally do have strong erotic feelings for each other. A good marriage includes mutual joy and satisfaction in sex.
Yet it is quite possible to give sex an importance far beyond what it deserves. Sex is important, but it is only one of many important parts of a good relationship.
2.RESPECT and ADMIRATION. Couples need to have a strong mutual attraction and hold each other in high regard.
3.FRIENDSHIP and FELLOWSHIP. Couples also need to be true comrades. They need to have many things in common--the more the better. They must like each other a lot, and be the best of friends.
4.Affection. And, of course,there must be tender feelings. Each partner should provide the other with a haven of refuge from harsh attacks in the outside world.We all need sympathy and empathy to soothe our hurts. We need to be understood. LOVE can mean a sholuder to cry on when our burdens are too heavy to bear alone.
5. Self-giving devotion. Finally, a good marriage has to have a good deal of agape love. All of us have some unlovable traits. A spouse must at times love not becauseof, but in spite of, the other person's faults. you will have to love your mate even durinf those times when you fell he or she does not deserve it. Like you, your spouse(husband) may sometimes not be very lovable. Your mate may at times be cranky, or lose their temper, or be depressed, or not want to talk to you. that will take some agape love on your part.
A good marriage will have a heavy sprinkilng of every one of these kinds of love. More than that, no one of them (with the possible exception of friendship) is enough in itself to build and sustain a healthy marriage. A balance of all five is a much better bet.
1. Strong Sex interest. Hornell Hart used to tell his classes at Duke that 3 things had to be true for human race to survive. We had to (a) get our breakfast, (b) avoid being someone else's breakfast, and (c) have at least a passing interest in sex.
Well,for most of us,interest in sex is a trifle more than passing. Couples normally do have strong erotic feelings for each other. A good marriage includes mutual joy and satisfaction in sex.
Yet it is quite possible to give sex an importance far beyond what it deserves. Sex is important, but it is only one of many important parts of a good relationship.
2.RESPECT and ADMIRATION. Couples need to have a strong mutual attraction and hold each other in high regard.
3.FRIENDSHIP and FELLOWSHIP. Couples also need to be true comrades. They need to have many things in common--the more the better. They must like each other a lot, and be the best of friends.
4.Affection. And, of course,there must be tender feelings. Each partner should provide the other with a haven of refuge from harsh attacks in the outside world.We all need sympathy and empathy to soothe our hurts. We need to be understood. LOVE can mean a sholuder to cry on when our burdens are too heavy to bear alone.
5. Self-giving devotion. Finally, a good marriage has to have a good deal of agape love. All of us have some unlovable traits. A spouse must at times love not becauseof, but in spite of, the other person's faults. you will have to love your mate even durinf those times when you fell he or she does not deserve it. Like you, your spouse(husband) may sometimes not be very lovable. Your mate may at times be cranky, or lose their temper, or be depressed, or not want to talk to you. that will take some agape love on your part.
A good marriage will have a heavy sprinkilng of every one of these kinds of love. More than that, no one of them (with the possible exception of friendship) is enough in itself to build and sustain a healthy marriage. A balance of all five is a much better bet.
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